When considering your failed marriage after your divorce, perhaps you should not regard it as a failure but just one of life’s lessons.
Look back at your marriage and marvel at the “many” firsts you had, renting your first place or the purchase of your first home. The birth of your first child. The firsts will be cherished by both of you. Although you won’t have experience of the first husband and wife, the beauty of life is that there is many more opportunities to have plenty more firsts.
The Good Times
Though your marriage is over and ended for a good reason, there are plenty of wonderful memories to be savoured. A You shared joyous occasions as well as unremarkable moments of contentment and bliss. No marriage is perfect. It is only when those bad moments overtake the good that we struggle to remember the bond that united you in the first place. Peacefulness and healing only come when we are able to recall, acknowledge and appreciate the happiness we once brought into our lives. When we do, somehow the bitterness miraculously falls away and we realise the years spent married was not wasted
The Bad Times
Times of hardship are part of life too. During these times we see our partner’s strengths and weaknesses, as they see ours. They should be called informative days not bad days, as it gives us the opportunity to see where we can improve. When support from your partner during a crisis is lacking, we start to think “Can our relationship can be improved? ” or “Should we part ways?” Remember knowledge is power, and without these bad days to guide us, we are then unable to trust and enjoy the good days. If you reflect on the “bad periods” of your relationship you can recognise the shortfalls. Then you can seek to rectify those shortfalls in your next relationship and hope to learn from it.
Can you imagine your life without your children? You love each of your children for the individuality, creativity and their ability to love. They are the unique product of your partner and yourself. For that reason alone something good came out of your marriage.
A failed marriage is one that stays in place long after the relationship is over.
If your marriage has come to an end, you do not need to end the relationship with your Ex, especially if you have children. An amicable divorce can help maintain your relationship whilst allowing you to move on in life. Contact Divorce Negotiator for help with an amicable divorce.