Should we get a divorce? Deciding to divorce is a big decision

Deciding to divorce is a difficult decision and it can take time to reach it. Unless divorce papers were suddenly thrust upon you then you may have been agonising over what to do for some time. Many couples experiencing hard times will firstly try to make it work for the sake of the marriage. It’s not an easy decision and some peoples’ marriage will be in limbo for a while.  Use this time to become absolutely clear and whether the best way forward is to actually end it.

Deciding to divorce?You may have uttered those vows: ‘till death us do part’ and the thought of ending the marriage could be a gut wrenching experience, especially when you consider the possible effect it will have on the children and your wider family. There are many reasons why marriages fail and the way you are thinking can be influenced by certain circumstances. The increasing feeling of being alone in a marriage, can lead you to think independently with ‘should I stay or should I go?’ running through your head.

Taking an individual perspective on things may be a positive experience for you. Perhaps you have spent 10 years in a marriage, where you have always thought about things together.  You may have neglected your own personal feelings or ambitions. The more you consider divorce, the more excited and positive you feel about the future.  The chance for you to live independently again becomes a more realistic challenge.

Get in the right mind-set

It’s important to get in the right mind-set for when deciding to divorce. Regardless of the reason for wanting to end the marriage, come to the agreement with your spouse. Instead of fighting forever after, use the time away from each other to reflect and accept what has happened is in the past and you are looking forward. In reality, the future would be better if you could be on good terms with your ex, especially where there are children involved, who want to spend time with both of you.

Deciding to divorce can shatter people’s dreams of happiness but at least you won’t be ‘happy ever after’ with the wrong person. Divorce can open your eyes to reality and help you think positive and even optimistic about your future. Working together with your spouse on the divorce process will help establish that amicable relationship for future projects.  These projects, like helping to organise your son or daughter’s wedding, will be a lot more enjoyable if you parted amicably.

Divorce doesn’t have to be a battle.  If you have both decided that divorce is what you want, we can help you reach a fair settlement that is fair for the whole family and your future finances. At Divorce Negotiator we work with you both to encourage a simple process in the friendliest possible manner.

For more information call us on 0800 177 7702.

Should we get a divorce? Deciding to divorce is a big decision was last modified: May 29th, 2018 by John Fuller
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