It is reported that around 50% of all marriages now end in divorce, which is of course why divorce is far more accepted in today’s UK society than it ever used to be. You are not expected to stay in an unhappy relationship because of societal pressures. But if you feel your relationship has broken down and there is no going back, you are likely to have come to this conclusion for a variety of reasons and not always together. Huffington Post reported last year that there were 10 most common reasons people got divorce, this included; marrying for the wrong reason, intimacy disappearing, financial pressures or differences and having different goals and expectations.
Although in truth many marriages may end due to a combination of these reasons when it comes to filing for divorce does any of this fit with the grounds that need to be satisfied to end your marriage?
The current UK grounds for divorce include:
- The parties have lived apart for two years (consent of the other party is required).
- The parties have lived apart for five years (consent of the other party is not required).
- Unreasonable behaviour – including provable violence, excessive drinking or neglect.
- Desertion by the other party.
But what if you have simply fallen out of love with each other and you have no relationship that you are able to save? Many in this situation want to achieve an amicable divorce without going through the courts so that they can end their marriage and move on with their lives. But if this does not fit into one of the current grounds, the need to pick a ground and cite reasons can cause unnecessary animosity and create friction where there was none before.
This is where no-fault divorce should step in. Although no-fault divorce currently does not exist in the UK, it is certainly time that this was re-evaluated and the change made. This would work to help couples achieve a fair, amicable divorce without the need to cite forced or sometimes untrue reasons just to achieve the divorce they were looking for. These circumstances can then often turn negative, which will incur more time, extra expense and the inability to tolerate one another.
At Divorce Negotiator, our aim is to lead you away from the court, encouraging instead an amicable agreement to the end of your marriage and this includes your children arrangements and financial settlement. We believe that the ideal divorce is one in which nothing is done to create animosity that would prevent you both from dancing together at your child’s wedding. Working differently to the traditional route, both parties work with one divorce specialist, which saves on time as you are not going between third parties and money as you only have one bill. If you’d like advice on your divorce or more information on how you can achieve an amicable and fair divorce outside of the courts please get in touch.