Hi all, following on from yesterday I’ll be writing about the common ways that conversations can escalate into arguments and also how you can gain back control so progress is made.
Below are some verbal and nonverbal ways that cause communications to breakdown:
- Shouting and yelling
- Interrupting each other
- Sarcastic tone
- Eye rolling, sighing or starring out the window
- Folding of arms
If you result to using insulting language then this is intended to bully, overpower or frighten the other person. Insulting one another will lead to defensive posturing of the arms being folded and cowering down, the communication is likely to come to a halt at this point.
If you can communicate calmly and civilly then the more successful the discussions will be. Emotions can have a big impact on effective communication and it’s hard to concentrate on what you want to discuss. Concentrating on a positive outcome which will benefit you both should help your communication with each other. Be efficient by writing down what you want to say so you don’t go of track, remain focused to what the purpose is of the conversation.
If you feel that you are not able to think calmly and remain neutral then now is not the right time for you to try and communicate with your ex-partner. Set a date for when you think you’ll be ready to sit down and communicate.
Have a good day