Telling your children that you are getting a divorce is probably the hardest thing to say to them, but it’s also one of the most important conversations you’ll have. Whether your divorce is amicable or not, for children the fact that their family is separating could be earth-shattering. Some children may already know that there have been difficulties with Mum and Dad’s relationship, but you should never underestimate the degree to which divorce can impact on them.
The adults are not alone on feeling the stress and strain of a relationship coming to an end. It’s important to guide your children through the process of divorce too. There isn’t one simple outline and working out when and how to tell the children will depend on a number of factors:
- – Age of the children
- – Maturity of the children
- – Conflict level in the household
- – Your own individual preferences
- – Family dynamics
After weighing up these factors with your partner, you can make arrangements to tell the children in the best possible way. You may even be surprised on their sophisticated knowledge about the subject and it may be a big sense of relief for them to hear it is finally over.
Some children would benefit from reading stories to them that reflect the situation.
Each person will have unique circumstances but if you are unsure of the path to choose, there is good advice and help through Divorce Negotiator’s contacts. An amicable divorce can help the family to work together on long term plans and communication, following the breakup.