Divorce can feel like a large brick wall barrier, that only you can climb with no clear vision of what’s over it.
Some people will plan ahead for divorce and know that it is coming, as their relationship slowly deteriorates but others will be in complete shock of the situation they find themselves in. This is especially true for those who have been cheated on. Perhaps you have discovered that your loving husband of 10 years has been having an affair for half of the time you’ve been married or you caught your wife in bed with another man. Being cheated on is not a nice feeling and can lead to a mix of emotions and actions.
If your partner cheated on you, then you may wish to take them to court knowing full well that you will be a clear winner in a battle for divorce. In regards to your feeling of resentment, you may wish to see your partner punished for their actions. However, this can still lead to a costly divorce due to the time spent between two solicitors corresponding.
The mature approach would be to look ahead on your future, knowing that you have a clear conscious and new outlook as a single person. The quickest way to get there is to show forgiveness towards your partner’s actions and move on. Many who cheat will seek forgiveness anyway to help them overcome the guilt and shame they have caused. Working divorce out amicably doesn’t mean their behaviour is acceptable, it simply means that you can move on with your lives separately.