Talking to you friends about your plans to divorce
Why do we talk to people more about what has gone in our marriage than what has gone right. This applies more to women than to men. I believe that most men feel, a problem shared is someone else knows my business. But women need to get things off their chest and they do this by telling friends and family what their spouse has done wrong. Is this to get advice? Is it to see if your relationship is ‘normal’? and what do we want from it, do we want advice or just someone to listen to us? Our friends and family are bound to be bias more often than not. Here you are sobbing about how he has disappointed you again and friends or family do not like to see you upset, so often they say things that you may take on board but may be adding fuel to the simmering fire. Ask yourself “why am I telling them this, what do I hope to achieve?” perhaps it is because you need sympathy or because you need to know if you are being a fool. We all want to make sure we are ‘normal’ in the eyes of the world.
If you are going to get divorced then make sure you have planned it right for everyone to come out the best they can. Your in-law may still need to be in your life, parents still need to be in children’s lives. Did you know that children become are more grounded when their divorced parents were still able to talk?
We are here to listen and we don’t charge to listen so why not call today and put one step in place.
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