One way of looking at life is to consider it as a series of decisions that change your course or path over a period of time. We can be incredibly focused on our life ambitions but unexpected circumstances can easily throw us off course and force us to rethink. We can always look back with hindsight and see how a chain of decisions led to a major one or sometimes it’s simply not straight forward how you got to be in a particular situation. When change occurs in a major way, it can often feel like you are a fish out of water. Some may experience a sense of branching out into unknown territory, which can be quite unnerving.
If we look at the bigger picture of your lifetime, transformation from one stage to another is simply a period of time when we must accept uncertainty and embrace the unknown. Going through necessary changes usually involves happiness and security at the end of it. In the long run, we should aim to see every change as an opportunity for growth that will provide an opportunity for another lesson in life.
Many of us often focus on the worst-case scenario and believe that we are paralysed by choices, terrified of making the wrong decision. However, inspired choices often come from the heart and somewhere deep down; we understand what is right and what you actually want from a situation. The decision becomes harder when you know it’s going to have a big effect on others you love and could lead to further problems. Although, it takes courage to accept any consequences and do what you feel is best in order to reach a new level of satisfaction.
If you are thinking of getting a divorce right now, you may be swaying between two points of view. It can be one of the hardest decisions of your life but with every decision there is no right or wrong answer. It is up to you and your spouse to come to a decision based on your circumstances. The point is that you must act and look for a solution. If your marriage has broken down over time, it’s probably time to think carefully about the future. If you look ahead and see you are likely to be suffering, this can affect others in your life like children and friends. However, if you deal with the heartache and hard times now, you will get to a happier level sooner.
We learn about what we want as we get older and every decision is a lesson in life. We also learn what we don’t want and this is just as important. People naturally grow apart and divorce doesn’t have to be a bitter dispute. It can simply be an agreement between two adults who realise that they feel differently to the decision they jointly made to marry. A divorce can be a similar agreement to the marriage, a mutual understanding that reflects what you both want in order to reach happiness in the future. Our choices help us grow into the person we long to be and were meant to be.
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