As we enter October, Halloween looms over the month like a black cloud. People start to plan their scary costumes to celebrate death and evil spirits. Whether you are a believer or not, sometimes in life, it can feel that an evil spell has been cast upon you. Perhaps the evil spell seems to be in the form of smartphones, laptops, tablets and other electronic devices that have gradually taken over the home and killed any attention that you used to receive from your partner.
These days the family home has evolved with the many electronic devices available to suit all our needs. A typical family evening is no longer a quiet meal together, talking about their busy days. It may involve the husband glued to the laptop, the wife chatting to her friends on Facebook and the kids battling away on the Xbox all night. With the advancements in smartphones, we can receive emails straight to our pocket and many people work unsociable hours because of this. Your work/life balance becomes blurred and this can affect your personal relationships, where it looks as though work is more important than meeting other’s needs.
When it comes to deep, meaningful conversations, you may well be met with bowed heads as they focus on their devices and respond infrequently to you. On the rare occasion that you can go out for a meal, the setting may be perfect to rekindle the spark in the relationship but your partner is spending more time checking their smartphone in between courses. This lack of attention can be damaging to your relationship and draw you further apart. In any relationship it’s important to communicate effectively, from telling your partner about the events of the day to discussing your interests.
The longer the lack of attention continues, the further your relationship could slip away from you. Eventually, you may find it easier to just give up on the relationship rather than try and talk it through further. When it comes to serious conversations about your future, being met with little interest in what you are saying will likely frustrate you to breaking point. For most, the threat of divorce may prompt them to shake up their whole routine in order to fix the damage they have caused to the one they love. Although in many cases, there is no blame for either partner in the relationship.
The death of attention may have begun with electronic devices taking over the home but the death of the relationship may be due to other factors. People may spend more time with their electronic devices or even spend less time altogether with their partner because they feel they have naturally drifted apart. With both parties agreeing this is the case, then at least they can come together once more to arrange a smooth, hassle-free divorce.
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