Research released this week conducted by Masaryk University has suggested that children pay the price later in life when their parents divorce amicably.
Researchers cited the fact that a child whose parents divorced in the 1940s or 1950s was 2% less likely to graduate from a university than other children, while by the late 1970s children were nearly 10% less likely to attend university simply because divorce laws were less restrictive in the 70s. The research suggests that divorce without conflict causes deep shock and lifelong damage to children and that they are less likely to succeed in life than those whose parents split up acrimoniously.
Sonia Limbada commented, “This research sends a very dangerous message. Essentially, what is being preached is that if you want your children to go to university you should expose them to vitriolic hatred. One has to stop and ask, is attending university the pinnacle of success which we should allow to determine how we divorce?
“How many of these children actually went on to have a meaningful and successful career? Could it be that the products of acrimonious divorces actually went to university to escape their family situations and to feel some self-worth?
“An amicable divorce is child-focused and inclusive of them, meaning that children are fully aware that the family is separating and the reasons behind the separation. There is no element of surprise for the child and it demonstrates that it is possible to make rational decisions in the face of adversity, without openly annihilating those you disagree with.
“A bitter separation often results in children losing contact with one parent, which surely cannot be preferable to an amicable divorce where sensible post-divorce parenting is possible.
“At Divorce Negotiator, the well-being of children is always our main priority throughout the negotiation process, whereas as soon as solicitors are brought into the situation the focus always tends to shift towards money. The fact that anybody can claim that this latter arrangement will serve the children better in the long-term simply defies all logic, which is why we always recommend amicable negotiation over litigation.”