So Christmas is over and for some it was lovely. For others it was stressful and wishing the days away for the holiday period to end.
We are always contacted over Christmas (the divorce season), often on Christmas day and this year was no exception.
A lady called to say that she had just discovered her husband was having an affair with the neighbour next door. It had been going on for some months and as you can imagine, their Christmas day was not a happy one. I wondered how they managed to hide this from the children! What a difficult situation.
As with most people who have children, mortgages and debts. One huge concern, as all these things run through your mind, is, how am I going to manage? How am I going to afford to live? What’s going to happen to the children? How will the children cope? And so on and so on. The thoughts are endless.
I sat and listened to her for half an hour, her emotions were running high. Sometimes anger and then tears.
I have found that when something is so raw it is best not to give too much advice. They will not take it all in, won’t remember everything you have said, and misinterpreted either in their favour or worse, going away and telling their spouse something that really is not correct.
This is why it is better to talk to the negotiator together, that way, there can be no, he said, she said,
When one enquires, they of course only want to know at this stage, what are THEIR rights.
I felt that it was best to let her talk, I gave her the basics,
An appointment was made for the three of us to meet.